美国人一到中年危机，就喜欢去意大利寻找人生答案。 最近看的奈飞剧都是这个套路。 《The Four Seasons》里，丈夫去世后的Anne最后留在意大利重新开始。 《La Dolce Villa》里，女儿花1欧元买下意大利老房子，美国父亲追过去，最后父女俩都在那里找到爱。 《Under the Tuscan Sun》与《Eat Pray Love》里，也都是去意大利重新开始。 以前好莱坞流行的是去法国找心灵归宿，《Sex and the City》里的Carrie也曾搬去巴黎。 意大利卖的不是风景，而是一种梦想中的生活方式。它刚好戳中美国人对慢生活的向往，让人相信，换个地方，就能换一种人生。 #美国生活# #人到中年#

列治文中区省选是兵家必争之地，四位候选人各具特色： 1，NDP候选人姚君宪，Henry Yao，深耕社区多年，辛勤参与学校和教会，给教会洗碗，在工会、教会、台湾社区有深厚的铁票仓，历史上同样的省议员选举战胜过卢仙泳。 2，BCC候选人施陪德，sacha peter在保守党内有深厚的人脉基础，财务专家，善于扭亏为盈，改善公共部门财务状况。 3，加西人民党候选人陈卫平，Lawrence Chen，老北京射击队教练，90年代移民列治文，最早的枪牌教练，深耕普通话社区多年，是无数大陆新移民的枪牌教练。 4，绿党候选人党政，Calvin Dang，来自中国大陆的水产及食品企业家移民代表，在列治文有深厚的经营企业的经验，为很多人提供了工作岗位，为很多小学，教会捐赠过急需的物资。 那么，你觉得谁更有赢下中区MLA的可能性？ Richmond Centre is a key battleground in the provincial election, and each of the four candidates brings a distinctive set of strengths to the race. 1. Henry Yao — BC NDP Henry Yao has spent many years building relationships within the community. He has been actively involved in local schools and churches, including volunteering to wash dishes at church events. He has established a strong support base among labour unions, churches, and the Taiwanese community. In a previous provincial election in the same riding, he also defeated Sin Yung Lo. 2. Sacha Peter — BC Conservatives Sacha Peter has strong connections within the Conservative Party. A financial expert, he is known for his ability to turn financial situations around and improve the fiscal performance of public-sector organizations. 3. Lawrence Chen — People’s Party of Canada West (CanWest) Lawrence Chen is a former shooting coach with Beijing’s shooting team who immigrated to Richmond in the 1990s. He was among the earliest firearms licensing instructors in the area and has spent many years building relationships within the Mandarin-speaking community. He has served as a firearms licensing instructor for countless new immigrants from mainland China. 4. Calvin Dang — BC Greens Calvin Dang represents the entrepreneurial immigrant community from mainland China. He has extensive experience running businesses in Richmond and has provided employment opportunities for many people. He has also donated essential supplies to numerous elementary schools and churches. So, which of these four candidates do you think has the strongest chance of winning the Richmond Centre MLA seat？

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最近霸榜的 Netflix 台剧《欠妳的那场婚礼》，用 25 岁与 41 岁男主角跨时空的残酷对照，把中年婚姻的无奈扒得一点不剩。 事实上，婚姻不是只有碰到小三才会瓦解。 婚姻教父 John Gottman 透过长达数十年的实证研究指出，当伴侣间出现以下「末日四骑士（The Four Horsemen）」时，离婚率高达 90% 以上： 1.批评（Criticism）： 从针对单一事件的不满，上升到对伴侣人格的全面否定（例如从「你忘了倒垃圾」变成「你这人就是自私又没救」）。 2.鄙视（Contempt）： 带有优越感的嘲讽、翻白眼或冷嘲热讽。Gottman 证实，「鄙视」是摧毁伴侣免疫系统与预测离婚的最强指标。 3.防卫（Defensiveness）： 拒绝承担责任，遇到沟通就立刻找借口反击，或是把自己塑造成受害者。 4.筑墙（Stonewalling）： 这正是剧中男主角周可杰（张孝全 饰），最常展现出的态度。面对冲突时彻底切断情感交流，用沉默、转身离开来筑起高墙；遇到夫妻冲突时，标准动作就是「逃避」与「摆烂冷处理」。 当伴侣一方选择「筑墙」时，另一方的神经系统会瞬间陷入极度的「战或逃（Fight-or-flight）」焦虑状态。这种长期的冷暴力与情感忽视，比直接的激烈争吵更能彻底摧毁大脑中的信任回路。 也因此，让婚姻死亡的不一定是外遇，若上述「婚姻末日四骑士」的状况轮番上演，最终「无话可说」就会把爱情给杀死。