Sydney Sweeney is the funniest stress test feminism has ever encountered bc I was taught that tHE PaTriArChY reduces women to their bodies, denies them individual agency and imposes rules on female sexuality based on what everyone else thinks women ought to be. Meanwhile Sydney is independently wealthy, produces her own projects, owns businesses, chooses to monetize her own sexuality, gains power from doing it and appears completely uninterested in anyone’s permission. And somehow the feminist response is thousands of women materializing to explain that her body is AcksHuAllY a collective political resource and she has a responsibility to use it in ways they approve of bc otherwise she’s “setting women back 100 years” (fucking LOL) So congratulations ladies! You defeated the patriarchy by becoming an enormous decentralized committee of women policing another woman’s sexuality, scolding her for appealing to men and reminding her that her individual choices must remain subordinate to what is best for Women As A Class. Perhaps the funniest part is that the men supposedly enforcing this grand patriarchal system are mostly standing off to the side like “Sydney seems great, let her cook” while the Feminist Liberation Committee is furiously drafting new regulations for what she’s allowed to do with her own gigantic knockers. Incredible operation. You guys are fucking killing it. Extremely boss babe. Very liberation. No notes.

It’s time for a new entry into our weekly ‘Design-o-Saur’ gallery; this week, we have this fabulous design! #art# #dinosaurs# #drawings# Don’t forget to check out our "Design-o-Saur" wall at the museum.

Doulas, docs, and social media Let me start this by saying IMO doulas are hugely net positive, can be very helpful for people especially during the birth itself, and also improve outcomes especially for at-risk groups. But they also exist in a liminal space where they can be more...flexible in their opinions and have a pretty high variance even between doulas. We went to a doula-led birth class AND the hospital's birth class to prepare us for the birth. The hospital class was way more rigid, by the books, and started almost all answers with “it depends”. The doulas had much stronger opinions. One example was around “can I eat after my water breaks?” - the reason is because if you need to go into emergency surgery the food might cause you to aspirate and choke. The hospital was a strong “you should not, liquids only”, while the doula gave much more permission saying the labor was going to be extremely long and you should have energy if it's going to take 18-36 hours and eat well at the beginning. I'm not saying either is right, but it highlights the divide in medically correct vs. practically useful even if you're taking on additional risk yourself. Most of the opinions from the doula-led class were very useful and non controversial (positions to alleviate pain, things to pack for comfort during the hospital stay, etc.). But some of them seemed vaguely antagonistic towards hospitals. At one point they said the hospital makes most of their money from epidurals so they'll push you towards that, and my dumbass was about to “ackshuallyyyyy” but decided against it. Several other expecting parents in the class also came in with very tiktok-brained questions that came from a real place of curiosity. The doula also was able to correct/clear up some of the vague medical misinformation. This gray area and less formal space allowed people to ask questions about “things they heard” and feel like they might hear a more real answer. I'd bet they wouldn't ask their doctors those questions, so I think it's great the doula was able to course correct someone that could potentially have ended up down worse rabbitholes. For new parents who want answers and confidence, it actually feels more reassuring and engenders trust when someone has a strong stance. In some ways I wonder if more docs should have stronger stances on low-risk questions to make patients feel more confident. Though I'm sure another group of patients would also be annoyed at docs for doing that + docs still have to deal with liability if that low-risk question turns out to not actually be low-risk