I’m currently traveling in Southeast Asia, but I wanted to take a moment to mark #InternationalGayMensDay# on Sept. 6. Having lived in the U.S. and now living in England, I reap the benefits of a tolerant society that protects sexual orientation in the law. But tolerance cannot be exploited as some mandate for radical political agendas that seek to dismantle all norms, institutions and safeguards. It’s important for dissident gay men like me to speak and make clear: not in our name. Photo below: I visit a dessert stand at a night market in Can Tho, Vietnam.