Jordan Peterson’s reading of “pearls before swine” is one of the most practical bits of conflict advice I’ve come across.
When someone isn’t listening, that doesn’t prove they’re stubborn. It shows you’ve misread who you’re talking to.
His fix is simple. Stop talking and start watching.
Give people silence and they’ll show you who they are and what they want, usually faster than you’d expect.
Most arguments run long because we keep explaining ourselves to someone who isn’t really there.