The nurse looked my sister dead in the eye and quietly asked, โHas your husband ever been tested?โ Sheโd been answering questions about her own body for nearly four years, but no one had ever asked that one. Those four years changed her. Every month started with hope and ended with another negative test hidden at the bottom of the bathroom trash. Friends announced pregnancies, relatives asked when it would finally be โtheir turn,โ and at every family gathering someone managed to say, โJust stop stressing and itโll happen.โ