Travis 💡(@ProofOfTravis):Interesting 🤔 My personal take: I wouldn’t date a woman who has a man not paying dinner as an instant turn off. Reason being, I think it’s a low effort way to try and see if a man will be a “provider”. It’s like saying a man finds too much makeup on the first date as a turn off because it shows a woman is insecure. That’s not how you index insecurity for woman, nor if a man is a provider. Basically if $100 of makeup or a $100 dinner bill can make or break a potential relationship, there’s some internal reflection to be had.

2026.10.25 15:54

Interesting 🤔 My personal take: I wouldn’t date a woman who has a man not paying dinner as an instant turn off. Reason being, I think it’s a low effort way to try and see if a man will be a “provider”. It’s like saying a man finds too much makeup on the first date as a turn off because it shows a woman is insecure. That’s not how you index insecurity for woman, nor if a man is a provider. Basically if $100 of makeup or a $100 dinner bill can make or break a potential relationship, there’s some internal reflection to be had.

jessyfries@jessyfries

2026.10.25 13:49

splitting the bill is a major turn off for me when i moved to finland i noticed most people do it, sometimes even married couples i could never be with a man who asks me to split the bill should he pay or is splitting fine?