People who actually have this kind of relationship, what do you think you did right?
My biggest advice is be upfront about what you’re into early on. You don’t need to reveal your most unhinged kink immediately, but definitely make it clear what kind of person you are sexually.
I think people hide what they want because they’re scared of being judged, then end up years into a relationship unable to be fully honest about what they actually want which I imagine feels really fucking lonely.
Having a relationship where you’re both comfortable enough to be as feral and unhinged as you want sexually, with no worry of being shamed or judged is like winning the lottery