There are just certain things beyond your control as a man. One is determining who ypur children believe or see reasons with. As a man, do your part by providing for them, rasing them properly, and any sacrifices you make for them should be done directly so they know it's you, so your wife don't take credit for it. At the end of the day, the fact remains your wife will most likely be closer to your children than you'll be because men are mostly busy with work and provision throughout their life. Your wife will have more time with the children than you and has the possibility to influence them either positively or negatively. This is why as a man, the only thing you have power to choose, which is your wife, it's your responsibility to make the right choice. Choose a woman who sees reasons with you so she won't need to turn you against your children.