My high school wrestling coach had a promising freshman wrestler that was big for his age so he often paired him up with myself and another junior, his star wrestlers, thinking it would help him toughen up faster. Instead it completely broke his fighting spirit, induced learned helplessness. My coach lamented to me at the end of my senior year “I shouldn’t have put him in with you guys, he just learned to ‘belly wrestle’ he needed to learn to win first.” I never forgot that. You build up young men by helping them earn small victories that snowball into big victories by being stern but encouraging. Literally progressive loading. You don’t make a kid strong by putting him under a 450 lb squat bar. It’s just too obvious, but sonless retards think that’s how it works. They think kicking a young man while he’s down will get him to get his shit together. It’s just not how it works.