This girl just made me catfish peppersoup with ripe plantain, and she was so excited about it. “You will enjoy it.” “Should I get more?” All with so much excitement and smiles on her face. She genuinely couldn’t wait to hear my compliments and feedback, and she really wanted me to enjoy the meal. The funny part is that it was only yesterday that I randomly mentioned wanting to eat this because of the weather. 😂 Man, I have no business being with a woman who can’t cook or, even worse, genuinely doesn’t enjoy cooking and feeding me. Good luck to the man who can accept you that way.

The phrase “nobody is coming to save you” is ultimately a reminder of personal responsibility and self-reliance. It echoes the idea that, to a large extent, we are the architects of our own fortunes. It does not mean that nobody will ever help you. Family, friends, partners, mentors, and even strangers may come through for you. But there is a limit to how much anyone can do for you. You cannot outsource your life to other people. Look at Tony Okoye, P-Square’s elder brother. In that interview, he spoke about how he felt P-Square had abandoned the rest of the family. Whether you agree with his account or not, it illustrates an important reality: someone else’s money can never truly be your money. They can help you, but will they give you enough to make you completely self-sufficient? What happens if you fall out with them? What if you disagree and they decide to withdraw their support? Even when people genuinely want to help, there are limits. If you need 10 million naira today, how many people can realistically give you the entire amount? Most people can only contribute what they can afford. The rest is still your responsibility. It is the same reason someone might ask, “Did I send you to get married?” when you expect them to fund your wedding. At some point, when life gets difficult, people will expect you to take the lead in solving your own problems. You will eventually reach a stage in life where you get tired of constantly bothering people with your problems. Not because people don't care, but because you realise they have their own lives and limitations too. “Nobody is coming to save you” does not mean “you are alone.” It means your life cannot depend on being rescued. Accept help, ask for support, build good relationships. But save yourself first. Because ultimately, nobody can do for you what you must eventually learn to do for yourself.