orph(@orph_):was trying to grasp why seeing someone narrate/define the child's experience made me uncomfortable this seems to be a relatively common experience with neurodivergent folks, where being observed/seen feels intrusive and/or impositional when you are used to experiencing shame for behaviors that feel natural to you, or your actions are routinely ascribed false intent, you 1) grow distrustful of authority & attempts of authority to describe you 2) get used to masking to prevent judgment so you end up experiencing loss of control when actively observed & described a la Winnicott, you lose the capacity to be "alone"/your "true" self in the presence of another person, and learn to organize the self as an object of someone else's interepretation (not saying this is what's happening here! just trying to understand my own emotional reaction)

2026.10.10 11:14

was trying to grasp why seeing someone narrate/define the child's experience made me uncomfortable this seems to be a relatively common experience with neurodivergent folks, where being observed/seen feels intrusive and/or impositional when you are used to experiencing shame for behaviors that feel natural to you, or your actions are routinely ascribed false intent, you 1) grow distrustful of authority & attempts of authority to describe you 2) get used to masking to prevent judgment so you end up experiencing loss of control when actively observed & described a la Winnicott, you lose the capacity to be "alone"/your "true" self in the presence of another person, and learn to organize the self as an object of someone else's interepretation (not saying this is what's happening here! just trying to understand my own emotional reaction)

Guy@nosilverv

2026.10.08 10:27

Shocked at this video of Chris Barber with his kid because the kid goes through the emotion SO FAST. About as fast as I do since I started feeling lol. And it sparked this hypothesis: perhaps people are terrified of emotions because, somewhere in the dynasty, for some reason, someone didn't have the skills/context/privilege necessary to process something *fast*. So the idea was ingrained that when emotions come they stay a looooooooooong time. And if that is the case then any negative emotion is EXTREMELY BAD because it stays for soooooooo long. This would lead not just to you being avoidant of your own emotions but being avoidant of others' including your kids', hence replicating the pattern in a self-fulfilling prophecy sort of way! They don't get the necessary support to go through them quickly so they DO indeed take a long time to get over and thus having negative emotions IS indeed extremely bad!

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