If you believe in āfairness,ā apply the same standard to yourself.
You canāt condemn a behavior in someone else and suddenly turn it into a moral exemption when youāre the one doing it. Accountability isnāt a buffet where we only pick the rules we like.
And on emotional pain: perhaps the problem isnāt that people donāt feel pain itās that some families were taught to recognize suffering only when thereās a visible bruise.
Not every wound leaves a mark. Some just learn to stay quiet.
That distinction is worth talking about