moar comment on the sluttiness discourse: I genuinely don't understand what women think they are "buying" if they treat sex like a bargaining chip for an LTR. If a woman doesn't want to have sex early then I totally support that! But what does she think she's getting if she deliberately withholds to "get him to commit"? really - I don't get it. Partly because I don't understand why women want commitment from men who are only committing so that they can get sex?? Importantly: this is *not even commitment* in this day and age because, with no-fault divorce, the guy can still leave whenever he wants! and again, to be clear, I have lots of friends who do not want to have sex early in the relationship and I support all of them in this. I have been in phases like this myself. But it seems like it just... works much better when you're doing it as a way of honoring personal needs, boundaries, and sense of the sacred?