i've been confused about the amount of norm policing that women seem to do. Lots of shaming of ppl doing (imo) harmless stuff. But prob this makes sense if you're easily influenced. If you're truly vulnerable to groupthink, then you'll be incentivized to control what the group thinks. Women are more inclined towards group cohesion and conformity. I think this also explains why women seem to be so (to me) unhinged about sex in the rationalist scene. I am personally very confused by the complaints - just don't do sex if you don't want to???? Nobody is trying to make you come to orgies??? But man of them seem very sensitive around the fact that I am 'normalizing' this form of sex positivity here. But this sensitivity makes sense if they're really afraid of being the weird ones! If the entire culture becomes sex positive and they're the one not-sex-positive person, then they'd be unusual and that would be a hard and scary position to be in. So they are really reactive and aggressive about the perceived spread of stuff they're not into personally, even if there's no actual pressure on them to partake. and im like idk. i feel ya. as a very weird woman i understand that being in a position like mine can be rough