My favorite toxic trait is checking the tracking number on a package that says "delivery in 5–7 business days" and genuinely expecting it to materialize on my doorstep 20 minutes later.
In high school, I was the kid who wore the same two pairs of jeans every week because my family was struggling. The rich kids used to call me "The Janitor" because I took a part-time job cleaning the school floors after hours to help my mom with rent.
The worst part was the assistant principal. He told me: "Accept your reality. People like you are built for labor, not for leadership."
I accepted his challenge instead.
Fast forward 11 years. I’m the Chief Operating Officer of a commercial tech corporation. We were looking to hire a new high-level security consultant director for our regional facilities.
I look at the final candidate schedule. It’s that exact assistant principal. He had been pushed out of the school board and was desperate for a corporate corporate retirement gig with our salary package.
When he walked into my executive suite, he adjusted his tie, smiled, and said, "Wow, you really made something of yourself. I always knew you had work ethic."
I didn't smile back. I handed him a broom that our cleaning crew left in the corner of the office and said: "I learned how to use this from a master of labor. Since you think I’m built for it, show me your technique first. Interview over."
The look of absolute defeat on his face cured years of high school insecurity.
Never let an authority figure write your script based on your current struggle. They don't realize the person cleaning the floors today might own the building tomorrow.