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Sarah Chieng
@MilksandMatcha
Head of DevX @Cerebras half of @SOTAwives
Joined March 2022
1.8K Following    33.9K Followers
My thoughts on getting married young as someone who got married at 25 and is still very career driven 1. It is underratedly rewarding to find someone before you are successful. The number of times I have heard “series A then I’ll date” only to lead to “series B then I’ll date” six months later. I made a fraction of what I make now in an extremely IC position when I met Tyler and there is nothing better than knowing we got here together. 2. Two years ago, my husband went through and acquisition and joined NVIDIA. Half of the team had partners and or was married, the other half was single. We appreciate the fact we met pre-acq because there was never any question of whether someone is with you for the $$. Not that it would be a problem, but why have things spoil the relationship when it doesn’t need to. 3. Dating takes an absurd amount of time and emotional bandwidth and imagine if you just didn’t have to do that. 4. You can take a lot more risks with your career and personal life because you have another person to keep you emotionally and financially stable. If you take these big financial bets and they are successful then INCREDIBLE. If they are not successful, you will still be perfectly fine. 5. You pool your networks together and you know probably 50% more people (assuming you also have heavy overlap) and this is extremely helpful and makes me feel better when I stay at home on a Friday night 😅 6. In many ways the person you marry is an investment and the earlier you invest the better the outcomes! But more seriously, I optimized for a partner who I could grow a lot with in a very complimentary way. And this has worked out nicely.
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“Do you think that getting married young has made you less ambitious?” Welcome to the first episode of SOTA Wives with Sarah Chieng (Head of DevX at Cerebras, ⁠@MilksandMatcha⁠) x Vivian Midha Shen (General Partner at Y Combinator, ⁠@vivianmshen⁠). In episode 1: finding your person before getting rich, turning down startup funding to finish MIT, what a YC partner sees in founders, and how a birthday post became “psychological violence.” 4:08 Finding your husband before the exit 8:48 Did we marry away our ambition? 18:04 The internet called Sarah's birthday “psychological violence” 20:47 Does your YC partner secretly think you’re doomed? 23:47 Building a startup with your ex-boyfriend 28:54 SF cat parties
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