Nneka spent two solid years doing wife duties on a talking stage budget. Every weekend, she was at Emeka’s place in Yaba, stocking his fridge, cleaning, and listening to his work rants. Whenever she brought up "What are we?", Emeka’s favorite line was, "I’m not rushing things, babe. Let’s just vibe and see where it goes. You know you're special to me." She kept swallowing that excuse, hoping her loyalty would finally promote her to girlfriend status. The wake-up call came on Emeka’s birthday. She organized a surprise dinner, paid for the cake, and invited his friends. Halfway through the night, Emeka stood up to give a toast. He thanked everyone for coming, then pointed at Nneka and said, "And a very special thanks to my good friend, Nneka, for putting this together." Good friend. Two years of market runs, emotional support, and exclusivity, only to be zoned in public. See, this is why you must stop giving wife privileges to men who are not even sure they want you as a partner. You cannot love somebody into valuing you. If a man tells you he is not ready, believe him! Don't take it as a challenge to prove you are the one. You are just offering yourself up as a placeholder until the person he actually wants to commit to shows up. Stop auditioning for roles they haven't given you a script for. If the title is not clear and the commitment is not there, carry your energy and go where it is valued. Value yourself enough to walk away from "let's just vibe." Na that vibe go later swallow your peace of mind.