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Aporia
@aporia9n
private equity by day, monitoring the situation by night
Joined April 2021
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The optimal strategy is to spend your 20s in the most intense / overpriced / high-density city you can tolerate Then leave once the things you were paying for become portable At 24 the London/NYC premium buys you friends, network, reference class, career optionality, random dinners, +1s, people building shit etc. You don’t have much gravity yourself yet, so you borrow the city’s At 35-40 the equation can completely flip. If you’ve built the network / reputation / money / audience / business, opportunities increasingly come to you wherever you are. Meanwhile sqm, schools, weather, calm, being close to family suddenly matter way more That’s why I’m always slightly skeptical when a 24yo sees the 40yo founder living an amazing life in Mallorca/Tuscany/Bali and thinks “yh I should do that” You’re copying the location without copying the 15 years that made the location work The exception is if you already have enough conviction early on that leaving doesn’t really shrink your opportunity set. If at 22 you know “I want to build solo software, distribution is online, I hate institutions, I value freedom way more than status” then yh Bangkok/Bali can make sense immediately But most 22yos probably shouldn’t pretend they have that much certainty yet Build the portable assets somewhere dense, then arbitrage them somewhere beautiful The goal is not to “escape” the city, but to graduate from needing it
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If you’re in your 20s (and ambitious) do everything to move to those 4 cities Yes people will mog you for paying extortionate rents for such little comfort but who cares, you’re not everyone, you’re on a mission, you’re here for greatness London/NYC/Paris/SF are basically the golden 4. They’re not just big cities, they’re global sorting machines. People move there from all over the world because they want sth badly enough to accept all the downsides. The guy born in London can be lazy. But the 26yo Frenchman, Indian, American, Italian, Nigerian, Lebanese etc who voluntarily accepts the tiny flat, shit commute and absurd rent to be there has already self-selected pretty hard And that selection compounds. I felt it instantly moving from my hometown in France to London. Growing up I was always “the ambitious one” in my friend group. Then you arrive in London and suddenly you feel extremely average. Everyone is trying to do sth. Completely changes your reference point for what a normal person can achieve The other thing is just how many serious games are happening at once. If you know at 22 that you’re going to be a semiconductor engineer forever, maybe there are better specialised places. But most ambitious 24yos have absolutely no clue what game they’ll eventually want to play. In London/NYC/Paris you can accidentally become friends with people in PE, startups, politics, law, media, fashion, pharma, academia etc. Your finance friend dates someone in fashion, their roommate is building a startup, you meet someone in politics at dinner. Suddenly 5 completely different lives feel plausible That’s insanely valuable when you’re young precisely because you don’t yet know which people / industries / opportunities will matter to your 34yo self SF is the weird exception because it’s basically one giant concentrated bet on tech/AI. Much narrower than the other 3, but that game is so asymmetric rn that it deserves its spot. If you want to build at the frontier there’s probably no other place where your reference class changes that aggressively And yh everyone keeps saying the internet made geography irrelevant. Maybe for information. Definitely not for trust/friendship. Anyone can learn from the same people online now, send the same cold DM, follow the same accounts. Much harder to replicate being the guy someone has had 20 dinners with, worked with, travelled with, introduced to friends and randomly bumped into for 5 years When you’re 24 and nobody knows who tf you are, geography can do a lot of the work for you. You get invited because your colleague knows someone. You end up at a dinner because your friend needs a +1. Someone you met 3 years ago leaves and starts a company. Another moves to NYC. Another becomes a partner somewhere. Most of the ROI is completely impossible to predict upfront Basically before you have your own gravity, borrow the city’s At 45, if you’ve built the company / reputation / money / audience / network, you can go live in Tuscany, Mallorca, South of France or wherever and people will come to you. At 24 no one is coming lol. You should probably be where everything is happening And tbh if you have the ability to move I wouldn’t spend 3 years waiting for the perfect job / apartment / timing. Get the shitty room, accept being poorer for a while, figure it out once you’re there. Your 20s are probably the cheapest years of your life to tolerate inconvenience anyway You can optimise sqm, weather and comfort later At 24 I’d rather maximise how many possible lives are available to me
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