interesting perspective but there’s nothing high-agency about choosing hard mode for its own sake
you move to nyc/london cuz you understand your environment is leverage
you don’t prove agency by refusing leverage
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Very bullish on “high agency influencers”. Not purely lifestyle or business or whatever niche, but some guy who keeps moving from one obsession to another with a lot of intentionality + taste. Build a company, move countries, train for hyrox, spend 2 months obsessing over some random niche, etc.
Distribution makes being this kind of person way more viable. Before, every time you switched games you were basically starting from zero again. Now the audience comes with you, & the new obsession itself creates content, inbound, sponsors, business ideas, ppl to meet etc. You can almost make curiosity pay for itself.
& i think there’s a real demand for this too cuz ambitious ppl now have like 100 plausible lives / games they could play and obviously can’t test all of them. These guys basically test different possible lives for you in public.
You don’t even need them to be the best in the world at any one thing. The interesting part is watching someone with enough taste + agency pick a game, take it weirdly seriously, figure it out, then eventually drop it and move onto the next one.
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Marc basically pivoted from indie hacking to being a “high agency influencer”, right in time for AGI.
His moat is not being the best coder / most technical guy in the room, but rather jumping from "coups" to "coups", leveraging his deeply attaching personality. You always want to see what he is up to next. Not only as an influencer doing stupid things for attention, but as a high agency guy who would research some random thing deeply and build sth around it, pursue a weird obsession for 2 months, move to a new city and explain all the pros & cons, get into HYROX and turn that into a $100k sponsorship stunt etc.
His personality is also perfectly suited for that game. He's successful enough / good looking enough / fit enough / makes enough money that the life is clearly aspirational, but never so polished or impressive that you stop relating to him. He's still filming random stuff on his phone, making stupid jokes, talking openly about the 30 things that failed, willing to embarrass himself a bit, doesn't act like he's above anyone.
That's a much more powerful balance than it looks, cause you want someone doing things slightly ahead of you, not someone living in a completely different universe.
If you're some ambitious / high agency 20-sth, Marc is a much more compelling guy to follow than a world class athlete, billionaire or hyper-specialised expert you can admire but never really imagine becoming, or some brainrot lifestyle influencer whose life is entertaining but gives you basically nothing to copy.
With Marc most of the entertainment is watching someone do things you could theoretically do yourself, just with more agency, more speed and less concern for looking stupid.
And I increasingly think that's the bundle that will win post AGI.
Being the most technically competent person in the room matters less when coding / writing / research / design etc. keeps getting cheaper and commoditised. The scarce bundle shifts more toward agency + taste + personality + distribution: knowing what is worth doing, actually doing it, making people care, then carrying that attention into whatever game you decide to play next.
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This is only true for a very slim subset of people chasing exceptional, compressed, power-law outcomes (build a unicorn in 5yr, become globally famous, change an industry, etc.)
For most people, realistic goals + boring linear inputs compounded for 10-20yr is the better strategy to "succeed" (and healthier one). Become great at a job, get wealthy, stay fit, build a good family/life, become genuinely knowledgeable at sth.
Delusion is also one of the straightest paths to permanent dissatisfaction and misery, and why we shouldn't oversell it to the new generation. Sure Steve Jobs / Elon Musk believed impossible things and set crazy targets, but they were (1) extreme exceptions, and (2) had a ridiculous combination of taste, talent density, capital, market timing, organizational ability, distribution, technical teams, etc. Delusion without all of that is usually just delusion.
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I increasingly follow people like this. Not necessarily top 0.1% in their domain, but guys who build / do cool shit, document the process, successes / failures, random discovery of the day, rabbit hole they fell into, city they moved to, sport they suddenly got obsessed with, weird product they bought, interesting people they met, etc.
Basically people whose default response to curiosity is to actually do sth about it.
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Marc basically pivoted from indie hacking to being a “high agency influencer”, right in time for AGI.
His moat is not being the best coder / most technical guy in the room, but rather jumping from "coups" to "coups", leveraging his deeply attaching personality. You always want to see what he is up to next. Not only as an influencer doing stupid things for attention, but as a high agency guy who would research some random thing deeply and build sth around it, pursue a weird obsession for 2 months, move to a new city and explain all the pros & cons, get into HYROX and turn that into a $100k sponsorship stunt etc.
His personality is also perfectly suited for that game. He's successful enough / good looking enough / fit enough / makes enough money that the life is clearly aspirational, but never so polished or impressive that you stop relating to him. He's still filming random stuff on his phone, making stupid jokes, talking openly about the 30 things that failed, willing to embarrass himself a bit, doesn't act like he's above anyone.
That's a much more powerful balance than it looks, cause you want someone doing things slightly ahead of you, not someone living in a completely different universe.
If you're some ambitious / high agency 20-sth, Marc is a much more compelling guy to follow than a world class athlete, billionaire or hyper-specialised expert you can admire but never really imagine becoming, or some brainrot lifestyle influencer whose life is entertaining but gives you basically nothing to copy.
With Marc most of the entertainment is watching someone do things you could theoretically do yourself, just with more agency, more speed and less concern for looking stupid.
And I increasingly think that's the bundle that will win post AGI.
Being the most technically competent person in the room matters less when coding / writing / research / design etc. keeps getting cheaper and commoditised. The scarce bundle shifts more toward agency + taste + personality + distribution: knowing what is worth doing, actually doing it, making people care, then carrying that attention into whatever game you decide to play next.
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That's what being a post-money founder looks like.
You stop optimising for money but instead focus on scale / relevance / cultural influence (and maybe eventually status/power).
And weirdly that can make the underlying thing much bigger. Cause you become your own VC, making asymmetric bets with your accumulated capital: you can kill the paywall, maximise network growth and figure monetisation out later.
The big advantage of succeeding with cash-generative businesses (like Peter did) is eventually having enough money to make those venture-style bets yourself, while still keeping 100% of the company (no dilution, no external investors, all the upside still yours if it works).
IMO that's one of the most underrated things money buys ambitious founders. Not retirement, but the ability to build things that don't need to make money immediately.
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🎒After a decade, I have made free for everyone now!
Well almost free, it's $1 to sign up to avoid getting lots of spam
The reason is
1) I have made enough money (from it)
2) charging for a community artificially limits the size, if you put the price at $299 you get 50 new members per month, at $99 you get 200 people, at $29 you get 400 people, etc.
And this always annoyed me, I don't want to put a limit but I had to, to be able to make money from it, so it's free now
I want it to be it the biggest community for digital nomads, world travelers, sovereign thinkers and network state type people
For years it has has a great sponsor with
@SafetyWing and I think that's maybe a better model for the future, get much more people in and then just add more sponsors
Right now for the record it has 43,252 paid members (so about 300/mo for 12 years!), so it will be interesting to see what it can grow too
I think now that AGI is on the horizon (or some say already here), online and offline (IRL) communities will become really important. People are talking more to AI now than to humans, and there was already a loneliness epidemic before AI
Making new friends and dating is not so easy for people now. And with remote work and entrepreneurship, people lack a space like an office where people would usually make friends or meet partners
I made most of the friends I have now through traveling and living around the world for the last 10+ years (and many via my site too), and I also met my girlfriend through those friends! So I think communities can have a real role in that post-AGI
Post-AGI business wise, communities also have a moat where many of my SaaS apps do not. So there is some urgency I feel to make Nomads in to the best community there is for those people. But that's why I have to remove any limitations to its growth now
So in a way after 12 years I am switching to the subsidized VC model a bit, but still 100% bootstrapped, kinda like "You either die a hero, or you live long enough to see yourself become the villain"
Having enough money now I can afford to do these things and figure out the business model later, which I think will be more sponsors
Enjoy and please sign up and tell me what to improve!!! 😊
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A good question to ask yourself is "what would happen this year if you were both the luckiest and best person in the world at what you do"
A friend asked me this and it hit, cause as much as i like my private equity job, well, even if i originate a deal myself, work twice as much as my colleagues, and it ends up making my fund $20M, well my total comp for the year will just be +$50k
Sure it's not bad and i'm already extremely lucky with what i earn etc, but when you're a really ambitious guy there is sth mentally draining about knowing that even if you're insanely good, get insanely lucky and basically everything goes your way, nothing THAT crazy can actually happen to you
Cause you can't dream. You don't really have this little thing in the back of your head going "what if this year?" "what if this week?" "what if this goes well?"
It's why i just love this twitter game. I can spend 30 mins writing sth, worst case it gets 8 likes and i forget about it, but there is always this tiny chance i wake up and it did 2m views, some random insane person dm'd me, i meet someone interesting, get pulled into a business opportunity, whatever
And then i can just take another shot tomorrow. then another one the day after
Not saying everyone should become a founder / creator either, obviously the reason jobs like mine are so good is you get a pretty absurd floor and barely any downside
But increasingly think very ambitious people need at least one thing in their life where, if they get exceptionally good + exceptionally lucky, something genuinely disproportionate can happen to them
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always amazes me how much people underspend on day-to-day convenience / comfort
remember an ex investment banker colleague who’d happily spend $200 on dinners & clothes but always complained about his awful landlord mattress ruining his sleep
same thing with no AC, uncomfortable shoes, shit headphones, dead phone battery, moving the same charger around etc. each annoyance feels tiny in isolation so somehow paying to permanently remove it feels expensive
probably one of the easiest lifestyle upgrades once you make decent money is just finding everything that makes a normal day 2-5% worse and paying to remove it
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my rule of thumb for buying anything is simple. if i use it at least twice a day, i buy the best version i can reasonably afford.
e.g. the best toothbrush, the best sheets, the best shoes, the best chair, the best headphones, the best phone, etc.
maybe more specifically the formula is something like frequency x duration x intimacy with your body/attention. if it touches you, supports you, or mediates reality for hours every day, buy the best version you can afford.
this also applies to product development, you should build products that touch ppl’s lives at least twice a day (when i was at g larry page would often say this rule a lot at tgif).
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Dubai hate mostly comes from Europeans with no geographic mobility convincing themselves those who have it are scammers / cheaters. And leftists enraged that some people might opt out of the “unrivalled” European social contract
Surprisingly Dubai is one of the few places where you'd meet more people who love their city than hate it
Personally been there a couple of times and think it's one of the best places pre high wealth, especially for 20-30yo internet entrepreneurs who just want to focus in an extremely efficient / safe environment
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I think the hate for Dubai is mostly a Eurocope that can't deal with how dirty and unsafe Europe's cities have become in the last 10 years
"Dubai doesn't have culture!!!!!!"
True but at least it's safe and clean
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Very true, NYC (like London) makes ordinary work feel important, while SF makes important work feel ordinary
It’s why elite grads in NYC/London still choose banking/consulting/law over startups
They don’t choose careers purely for money, impact or intellectual interest, but mostly for the social signals that come with them
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one of the strangest things about moving from new york to sf was realizing how often extremely important things happen here in settings that don't feel important at all
i lived in new york for four years. i sometimes spent entire days moving icons around in powerpoint, but i was doing it in a skyscraper with great views, surrounded by attractive people in patagonia vests. afterward i'd walk onto a packed street and go to a beautiful restaurant
even when the work itself was mundane, everything around it told you it mattered
sf is almost the opposite
the blue bottle in south park feels like a normal coffee shop. it is also a place where an absurd amount of capital gets allocated
sand hill road is one of the most powerful financial centers in the world and looks like a collection of dentist offices
you'll meet someone dressed like they just rolled out of bed who can't make eye contact and discover later that they control billions of dollars or have built a product you use every day
i've been to parties where almost everyone had raised millions of dollars or built products used by millions of people. in another city, each person would have seemed like a big deal. in sf, they were just standing around a cramped apartment at a "party" that honestly wasn't even that good
i used to live in a closet in a slightly dilapidated hacker house with creaky floors and old furniture. people who lived there went on to create companies worth tens of billions of dollars
new york puts a lot of effort into making importance visible. sf often seems actively uninterested in doing that
some of this is probably because sf is more focused on creation than consumption. some of it is the personality of builders, who often care much more about the thing they're making than the room they're making it in
but i think the lack of polish also lowers the barrier to entry. you don't need to look important before doing something important here
new york makes ordinary work feel important
sf makes important work feel ordinary
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The catch for ADHDs, and most ambitious people, is now having infinite distraction in both consumption AND production
Infinite entertainment to consume obviously, but also infinite productive things you could be doing (another AI tool to try, business to build, topic to research, skill to learn, post to write etc.)
The latter is much more dangerous because you can spend your entire day distracted while genuinely feeling extremely productive
So yh increasingly think the real advantage is getting insanely good at artificially narrowing your world and adding back constraints: hard barriers, fewer choices, boring routines, periods where you’re simply not allowed to switch games, etc
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Really believe that ADHDs, if they play their cards well, might be the biggest winners of this AI gold rush
Cause unlike corporate careers rewarding consistency & compounding, the new world disproportionally rewards curiosity, obsession, rapid switching and intensity
The basic problem with ADHD in the old world was that curiosity was expensive. You’d get obsessed with some random idea, spend 3 days learning everything about it, want to build something, then realise you need 6 months to learn how to code / design / whatever (or pay someone who can) and eventually move onto the next thing
But AI completely changes that equation because the distance between “wait this would be cool” and actually testing it has collapsed from months to sometimes hours. You can get curious about some niche industry in the morning, understand the basics by lunch, vibe code something in the afternoon and potentially have people testing it that evening. So this disproportionately rewards people whose natural state is basically jumping between rabbit holes, connecting unrelated things and occasionally becoming insanely obsessed with one of them
AI is also slowly deleting the boring middle. A lot of ADHD people aren’t necessarily bad at starting things or going insanely deep when something captures their attention, they’re bad at the 200 repetitive steps between “this is exciting” and “this is finished” (boilerplate, formatting, basic debugging, admin, iteration, etc.) And those are increasingly exactly the things you can delegate to AI, which means the economic value of being insanely curious + occasionally obsessive probably goes up, while the cost of being bad at repetitive execution goes down
But there’s a massive catch, because AI is also creating the greatest distraction machine ever invented. Every morning there’s a new model, agent, tool, business model or “once in a generation opportunity” to chase, and the same brain that benefits most from cheap experimentation is also the one most likely to spend 5 years being extremely early to everything and compounding absolutely nothing
So the actual winning combination might actually be ADHD-style exploration + artificially imposed constraints: explore aggressively, follow weird rabbit holes, test way more things than a normal person would, but once something works force yourself into sprints where you’re simply not allowed to play another game
For most of history the economy disproportionately rewarded people who could reliably do the same useful thing for 8 hours a day, 250 days a year. For this weird period of AI, the returns temporarily shift towards people who can obsess over 20 things, connect 2 that nobody else connected, then disappear for 3 days and build the thing
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Really believe that ADHDs, if they play their cards well, might be the biggest winners of this AI gold rush
Cause unlike corporate careers rewarding consistency & compounding, the new world disproportionally rewards curiosity, obsession, rapid switching and intensity
The basic problem with ADHD in the old world was that curiosity was expensive. You’d get obsessed with some random idea, spend 3 days learning everything about it, want to build something, then realise you need 6 months to learn how to code / design / whatever (or pay someone who can) and eventually move onto the next thing
But AI completely changes that equation because the distance between “wait this would be cool” and actually testing it has collapsed from months to sometimes hours. You can get curious about some niche industry in the morning, understand the basics by lunch, vibe code something in the afternoon and potentially have people testing it that evening. So this disproportionately rewards people whose natural state is basically jumping between rabbit holes, connecting unrelated things and occasionally becoming insanely obsessed with one of them
AI is also slowly deleting the boring middle. A lot of ADHD people aren’t necessarily bad at starting things or going insanely deep when something captures their attention, they’re bad at the 200 repetitive steps between “this is exciting” and “this is finished” (boilerplate, formatting, basic debugging, admin, iteration, etc.) And those are increasingly exactly the things you can delegate to AI, which means the economic value of being insanely curious + occasionally obsessive probably goes up, while the cost of being bad at repetitive execution goes down
But there’s a massive catch, because AI is also creating the greatest distraction machine ever invented. Every morning there’s a new model, agent, tool, business model or “once in a generation opportunity” to chase, and the same brain that benefits most from cheap experimentation is also the one most likely to spend 5 years being extremely early to everything and compounding absolutely nothing
So the actual winning combination might actually be ADHD-style exploration + artificially imposed constraints: explore aggressively, follow weird rabbit holes, test way more things than a normal person would, but once something works force yourself into sprints where you’re simply not allowed to play another game
For most of history the economy disproportionately rewarded people who could reliably do the same useful thing for 8 hours a day, 250 days a year. For this weird period of AI, the returns temporarily shift towards people who can obsess over 20 things, connect 2 that nobody else connected, then disappear for 3 days and build the thing
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message to all ADHDs:
you just need to hack your brain's dopamine to finish a week's work in 5 hours.
your prefrontal cortex is understimulated. ADHD means your brain has lower baseline dopamine activity so it constantly hunts for stimulation
but every productivity system was built for neurotypical brains that can sit down and grind 8 hours. yours can't. yours needs intensity - urgency - rewards
here's what actually works with ADHD:
- externalise everything: the reward has to be visible and immediate. timers, streaks, session logs. turn invisible effort into something you can see after every sprint
- work around people bc ADHD brains respond to perceived observation. working in silence alone is the worst possible setup. when someone can see your output = spikes and focus sharpens (this is why ADHD kids do homework better in the kitchen than their bedroom)
- do sprints (cc
@aporia9n) only. your dopamine system rewards finishing. 25 to 90 minute blocks with a clear end point. dedicate a part of your year to work, another to chill, rest. split your month
- make a leaderboards where you see your friends or colleagues grinding + concrete missions
we will never remove dopamine from social media. so we have to inject it into work instead
the trick is making your brain crave the work session the way it craves opening X or TikTok.
if you want something built for this, try Promethee. it tracks work, gives XP for sessions, and puts you on a leaderboard with other builders. just ask below and i'll give you access code
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At this point i just feel creator platforms, and especially tiktok, are becoming casinos for aspiring creators, giving you just enough hope you could make it to keep you playing
Not talking about infinite scroll / dopamine etc, but more the creator side, with random huge wins, near-misses, highly visible winners, and now the ability to literally buy more chips
Same pattern for most of my creator friends: most of their posts get 500-700 views, then one randomly does 500k, then back to 700 views for a few months. I think it’s a deliberate trick (ie intermittent rewards). You’re much more likely to keep going after that than if every post had done 20k. You’ve now seen that the jackpot is possible for you, and every mediocre post becomes a near-miss rather than evidence you should stop. The most addicted creators I know are the ones who went properly viral once and have been trying to recreate it ever since
The feed is also only showing you the jackpot winners. A random 16yo gets 800k followers in 2 weeks, an anonymous account makes $1M, some guy quits his job 6 months after starting Youtube etc. Your feed basically shows you every jackpot without ever showing the millions who tried the exact same thing and got 600 views. And as I wrote yesterday, ordinary winners are probably even better, because seeing someone apparently no smarter / more talented than you win makes you think “fuck, I could probably do that too”
And now platforms are increasingly realising they can sell the chips too. $20 to boost a post, $50 to reach another 10k people, premium accounts, analytics, creator tools etc. Doesn’t really register as spending when in your head the upside is potentially millions + fame + quitting your job. Especially once you’ve already had that one post do 300k and start thinking “maybe this one just needs a push”
Also don’t think the huge creators are necessarily the best customers long term. If nothing ever works you’ll eventually leave, if you become massive you start building businesses / distribution elsewhere and become less dependent on the platform. Someone stuck in between though, few thousand followers, one 300k post, maybe made some money once, permanently feeling like they’re 2 good posts away… that person can probably play for years
Casinos have understood this forever, think platforms are just starting to realise how insanely monetisable ambition can be
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This is exactly the kind of overnight success story TikTok has every incentive to manufacture (she now has 800k followers btw, in 2 weeks)
Take an ordinary 16yo girl filming random makeup/life stories from her bedroom, and make millions of aspiring creators believe they could be next
The more ordinary the winner looks, the more people think “fuck, I could do that too”. A 23yo Stanford dropout who builds a $100M company (or someone crossing the Atlantic swimming) doesn't make you think you could do that. A random 16yo girl making videos from her bedroom does. So from a platform perspective, there is every incentive to promote people who appear unexceptional enough to be relatable, and I think TikTok just understood that
Also think platforms are increasingly realising that creators are much more monetisable than consumers. An aspiring creator can have a crazy willingness to pay if they genuinely believe they're one viral video away from changing their life. Spending $20, $50 or $200 promoting a post doesn't feel like buying advertising. It feels like buying a lottery ticket with upside of millions
TikTok is slowly becoming a casino that sells you chips. Show enough people the occasional ridiculous winner, keep everyone convinced they have potential, then sell them distribution when their own content doesn't take off
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This is exactly the kind of overnight success story TikTok has every incentive to manufacture (she now has 800k followers btw, in 2 weeks)
Take an ordinary 16yo girl filming random makeup/life stories from her bedroom, and make millions of aspiring creators believe they could be next
The more ordinary the winner looks, the more people think “fuck, I could do that too”. A 23yo Stanford dropout who builds a $100M company (or someone crossing the Atlantic swimming) doesn't make you think you could do that. A random 16yo girl making videos from her bedroom does. So from a platform perspective, there is every incentive to promote people who appear unexceptional enough to be relatable, and I think TikTok just understood that
Also think platforms are increasingly realising that creators are much more monetisable than consumers. An aspiring creator can have a crazy willingness to pay if they genuinely believe they're one viral video away from changing their life. Spending $20, $50 or $200 promoting a post doesn't feel like buying advertising. It feels like buying a lottery ticket with upside of millions
TikTok is slowly becoming a casino that sells you chips. Show enough people the occasional ridiculous winner, keep everyone convinced they have potential, then sell them distribution when their own content doesn't take off
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A girl named Ellie Ellis has seemingly cracked the TikTok code.
She went from just 6 followers on her first video to nearly 400,000 followers just 7 videos later, all by posting GRWM videos.
The growth is insane.
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Having a geographically distributed family is dope. Imagine having one sibling in NYC, one in Dubai, one in SEA, parents somewhere nice in Southern Europe, etc
You multiply your family’s surface area and optionality for everyone. I don’t buy the “losing your roots” discourse, you can be spread across 4 countries and still have a very strong family culture, traditions, annual gatherings, shared holidays etc. The root can become the family itself rather than the village you all happen to live in
It makes the family dynamics much more interesting. One person knows London, another knows Dubai, another has spent 20 years in Asia, your parents know everyone in their little corner of Spain. You end up with this distributed network of relationships, local knowledge and opportunities that compounds over generations. Your kids can grow up feeling like half the world is basically home
And it lets everyone optimise for different things. Parents don’t need to live where their children work, and children don’t need to sacrifice opportunity to stay near parents. One sibling can optimise for corporate career, another for business opportunities, another for lifestyle, etc. You don’t need one city to be good at everything if the family as a whole is spread across several
You might lose some of the spontaneous stuff that comes from everyone being 20 minutes away. But proximity isn’t necessarily correlated to rootedness anyway. You can be incredibly close to someone 5,000km away and barely know the family living down the road
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And here we are, our President is chest-bumping a €6bn FDI from Saudi Arabia for a new Manga theme park near Paris
Probably net positive for France but sad that every new ambitious project now depends on foreign capital, and that we’re slowly accepting our role as a big amusement park for the world
The Saudis have accumulated enough capital to deploy billions around the world, while we’re celebrating being an attractive place for them to spend it
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Une annonce hors normes.
Vous connaissez mon intérêt pour les mangas. Vous savez aussi ma détermination à attirer en France les investissements qui créent des emplois et rendent possibles les projets les plus ambitieux.
Avec l’Arabie saoudite, nous faisons une annonce sans précédent.
À Cergy-Pontoise, 3 parcs à thème vont voir le jour.
6 milliards d’euros d’investissements.
22 000 emplois créés.
Du jamais vu depuis Disneyland Paris.
Une nouvelle destination mondiale.
Ici, en France.
Merci à Qiddiya et à l’Arabie saoudite pour leur confiance en notre pays, en nos talents et en notre avenir.
C’est tout le sens de Choose France : aller chercher les projets les plus ambitieux et faire de la France le pays où ils deviennent réalité. Créer des emplois. Faire rayonner la France.
Nous n’avons pas fini de surprendre le monde.
Très fier de cette réussite.
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Removing friction is how rich people end up losing agency and human IQ
It starts with Uber-everywhere, grocery delivery, all-inclusive holidays, then private driver, chef, assistant etc… without noticing you’re also removing exposure to reality
I see this in London with young ambitious professionals aka HENRYs (High Earners Not Rich Yet) trying to remove every tiny friction from life so they can focus on work + gym + sleep + money, while forgetting that a lot of the “inefficient” shit they’re deleting (cooking, walking somewhere, random talks etc) is also just… being a human in your 20s/30s
The thing is you’re not only saving time, you’re removing thousands of tiny reps of dealing with the world. Finding the place, fixing the booking, working out what to do when the train gets cancelled, asking someone for help, improvising because the plan is fucked. None of these makes you smarter on its own, but remove basically all of them for 10 years and I’d be surprised if it has zero effect. You can become incredibly high-agency at work while weirdly low-agency at normal life
It’s why so many high-agency rich people are deliberately paying to add friction back into their lives (difficult travel, long treks, sailing, marathons, remote places, silent retreats, climbing mountains, etc). They’ve understood that once comfort is abundant, difficulty becomes scarce. The luxury good eventually becomes optional hardship. The distinction is agency. Being forced to walk 10km because your car broke down sucks. Choosing to hike 20km in Patagonia feels meaningful
The way I think about it personally is just aggressively remove boring / repetitive friction, while keeping a decent amount of unpredictable friction. I’ll happily pay more for the direct flight, live centrally to kill a commute, outsource cleaning/admin, take the Uber if it genuinely saves 40 mins. A 15-min annoyance x300 a year is actually expensive. There is absolutely no hidden life lesson in doing your laundry for the 800th time or spending 2h getting somewhere you could reach in 30 mins
Think the objective of wealth shouldn’t be zero friction, but simply choosing your friction. Basically removing all the boring shit so you can expose yourself to more of the interesting stuff
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If you can’t do London/NYC/SF/Paris because of visas, family, money or whatever, just move one level down
Your capital, regional hub, wherever concentrates ambitious people around you
The mistake is thinking city choice is binary: either NYC/London or who cares. There’s a whole ambition-density ladder in between. Can’t get a US/UK visa? Go to your country’s capital. Capital too expensive / impossible? Go to the regional business hub, best university city, fastest-growing industry cluster. The point is just to keep moving closer to where people are actively trying to do sth
And tbh the first jump might matter way more than the last one. Going from a small town where you’re always “the ambitious one” to a city where suddenly 50 people around you are building companies / joining great firms / moving abroad / doing weird interesting shit can completely change your reference class. Madrid -> London might be an upgrade, but hometown -> Madrid can change your entire conception of what a normal life looks like
A very simple rule of thumb: go where the ambitious people from your hometown go. Every country / region has one or two cities that act as sorting machines. Maybe it’s Warsaw, São Paulo, Amsterdam, Dubai, Singapore, Madrid, Boston, whatever. Doesn’t even need to be huge. A 500k-person university / tech / industry hub full of people who actively chose to be there can be much more valuable than a 5m-person city where everyone is just living the life they inherited
And don’t over-optimise which one either. Ambitious people love spending 2 years comparing tax rates / rents / weather / startup ecosystems when the obvious move is simply “leave the environment that’s clearly too small for you”. You can always move again. Hometown -> regional hub -> capital -> global city is a perfectly fine path. High agency isn’t magically teleporting to the optimal endpoint, it’s taking the best available step from where you currently are
A pretty good test is whether your reference class improves. If you’re still consistently the most ambitious / curious / internationally minded person in your immediate environment, you’re probably under-allocated geographically. Ideally you move somewhere and 6 months later think “fuck, I’m actually pretty average here”. That feeling is uncomfortable but insanely useful. Your standards reset without you consciously trying
So yh don’t obsess over making it to some perfect city. Just keep moving up the density gradient until you’re surrounded by enough people playing interesting games that your environment stops being the constraint
You don’t need to live in the best place in the world
You need to stop treating the place you were randomly born in as the default
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If you’re in your 20s (and ambitious) do everything to move to those 4 cities
Yes people will mog you for paying extortionate rents for such little comfort but who cares, you’re not everyone, you’re on a mission, you’re here for greatness
London/NYC/Paris/SF are basically the golden 4. They’re not just big cities, they’re global sorting machines. People move there from all over the world because they want sth badly enough to accept all the downsides. The guy born in London can be lazy. But the 26yo Frenchman, Indian, American, Italian, Nigerian, Lebanese etc who voluntarily accepts the tiny flat, shit commute and absurd rent to be there has already self-selected pretty hard
And that selection compounds. I felt it instantly moving from my hometown in France to London. Growing up I was always “the ambitious one” in my friend group. Then you arrive in London and suddenly you feel extremely average. Everyone is trying to do sth. Completely changes your reference point for what a normal person can achieve
The other thing is just how many serious games are happening at once. If you know at 22 that you’re going to be a semiconductor engineer forever, maybe there are better specialised places. But most ambitious 24yos have absolutely no clue what game they’ll eventually want to play. In London/NYC/Paris you can accidentally become friends with people in PE, startups, politics, law, media, fashion, pharma, academia etc. Your finance friend dates someone in fashion, their roommate is building a startup, you meet someone in politics at dinner. Suddenly 5 completely different lives feel plausible
That’s insanely valuable when you’re young precisely because you don’t yet know which people / industries / opportunities will matter to your 34yo self
SF is the weird exception because it’s basically one giant concentrated bet on tech/AI. Much narrower than the other 3, but that game is so asymmetric rn that it deserves its spot. If you want to build at the frontier there’s probably no other place where your reference class changes that aggressively
And yh everyone keeps saying the internet made geography irrelevant. Maybe for information. Definitely not for trust/friendship. Anyone can learn from the same people online now, send the same cold DM, follow the same accounts. Much harder to replicate being the guy someone has had 20 dinners with, worked with, travelled with, introduced to friends and randomly bumped into for 5 years
When you’re 24 and nobody knows who tf you are, geography can do a lot of the work for you. You get invited because your colleague knows someone. You end up at a dinner because your friend needs a +1. Someone you met 3 years ago leaves and starts a company. Another moves to NYC. Another becomes a partner somewhere. Most of the ROI is completely impossible to predict upfront
Basically before you have your own gravity, borrow the city’s
At 45, if you’ve built the company / reputation / money / audience / network, you can go live in Tuscany, Mallorca, South of France or wherever and people will come to you. At 24 no one is coming lol. You should probably be where everything is happening
And tbh if you have the ability to move I wouldn’t spend 3 years waiting for the perfect job / apartment / timing. Get the shitty room, accept being poorer for a while, figure it out once you’re there. Your 20s are probably the cheapest years of your life to tolerate inconvenience anyway
You can optimise sqm, weather and comfort later
At 24 I’d rather maximise how many possible lives are available to me
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The optimal strategy is to spend your 20s in the most intense / overpriced / high-density city you can tolerate
Then leave once the things you were paying for become portable
At 24 the London/NYC premium buys you friends, network, reference class, career optionality, random dinners, +1s, people building shit etc. You don’t have much gravity yourself yet, so you borrow the city’s
At 35-40 the equation can completely flip. If you’ve built the network / reputation / money / audience / business, opportunities increasingly come to you wherever you are. Meanwhile sqm, schools, weather, calm, being close to family suddenly matter way more
That’s why I’m always slightly skeptical when a 24yo sees the 40yo founder living an amazing life in Mallorca/Tuscany/Bali and thinks “yh I should do that”
You’re copying the location without copying the 15 years that made the location work
The exception is if you already have enough conviction early on that leaving doesn’t really shrink your opportunity set. If at 22 you know “I want to build solo software, distribution is online, I hate institutions, I value freedom way more than status” then yh Bangkok/Bali can make sense immediately
But most 22yos probably shouldn’t pretend they have that much certainty yet
Build the portable assets somewhere dense, then arbitrage them somewhere beautiful
The goal is not to “escape” the city, but to graduate from needing it
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If you’re in your 20s (and ambitious) do everything to move to those 4 cities
Yes people will mog you for paying extortionate rents for such little comfort but who cares, you’re not everyone, you’re on a mission, you’re here for greatness
London/NYC/Paris/SF are basically the golden 4. They’re not just big cities, they’re global sorting machines. People move there from all over the world because they want sth badly enough to accept all the downsides. The guy born in London can be lazy. But the 26yo Frenchman, Indian, American, Italian, Nigerian, Lebanese etc who voluntarily accepts the tiny flat, shit commute and absurd rent to be there has already self-selected pretty hard
And that selection compounds. I felt it instantly moving from my hometown in France to London. Growing up I was always “the ambitious one” in my friend group. Then you arrive in London and suddenly you feel extremely average. Everyone is trying to do sth. Completely changes your reference point for what a normal person can achieve
The other thing is just how many serious games are happening at once. If you know at 22 that you’re going to be a semiconductor engineer forever, maybe there are better specialised places. But most ambitious 24yos have absolutely no clue what game they’ll eventually want to play. In London/NYC/Paris you can accidentally become friends with people in PE, startups, politics, law, media, fashion, pharma, academia etc. Your finance friend dates someone in fashion, their roommate is building a startup, you meet someone in politics at dinner. Suddenly 5 completely different lives feel plausible
That’s insanely valuable when you’re young precisely because you don’t yet know which people / industries / opportunities will matter to your 34yo self
SF is the weird exception because it’s basically one giant concentrated bet on tech/AI. Much narrower than the other 3, but that game is so asymmetric rn that it deserves its spot. If you want to build at the frontier there’s probably no other place where your reference class changes that aggressively
And yh everyone keeps saying the internet made geography irrelevant. Maybe for information. Definitely not for trust/friendship. Anyone can learn from the same people online now, send the same cold DM, follow the same accounts. Much harder to replicate being the guy someone has had 20 dinners with, worked with, travelled with, introduced to friends and randomly bumped into for 5 years
When you’re 24 and nobody knows who tf you are, geography can do a lot of the work for you. You get invited because your colleague knows someone. You end up at a dinner because your friend needs a +1. Someone you met 3 years ago leaves and starts a company. Another moves to NYC. Another becomes a partner somewhere. Most of the ROI is completely impossible to predict upfront
Basically before you have your own gravity, borrow the city’s
At 45, if you’ve built the company / reputation / money / audience / network, you can go live in Tuscany, Mallorca, South of France or wherever and people will come to you. At 24 no one is coming lol. You should probably be where everything is happening
And tbh if you have the ability to move I wouldn’t spend 3 years waiting for the perfect job / apartment / timing. Get the shitty room, accept being poorer for a while, figure it out once you’re there. Your 20s are probably the cheapest years of your life to tolerate inconvenience anyway
You can optimise sqm, weather and comfort later
At 24 I’d rather maximise how many possible lives are available to me
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The golden 4 aren’t necessarily the best cities to win any specific game, but they’re the best to live in before you know which one you want to play
Sure Bangkok/Bali are better for online entrepreneurs, Boston for Biotech, Zurich for corporate workers, etc
But all of this requires knowing at 22-25 what you’ll still want at 32
That’s why I like London/NYC/Paris so much when you’re young. You can start in finance, somehow become friends with founders / lawyers / journalists / people in politics / fashion / whatever, discover some completely different game at 27 and switch without having to rebuild your entire life somewhere else
SF is a bit different but maybe not that different in practice. Everyone is technically “in tech”, but people jump from crypto to AI to defence to biotech to VC/startups so quickly that you still get exposed to a ton of completely different games
The thing is you don’t really know what you want until you’ve seen enough lives up close. You might think you want PE because every ambitious person around you works in finance. Then you become close friends with a founder, journalist, filmmaker, politician etc and suddenly realise there are 10 other games you didn’t even know were available to you
At 24 I’d rather live in a portfolio of possible lives than make one perfectly optimised bet too early
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If you’re in your 20s (and ambitious) do everything to move to those 4 cities
Yes people will mog you for paying extortionate rents for such little comfort but who cares, you’re not everyone, you’re on a mission, you’re here for greatness
London/NYC/Paris/SF are basically the golden 4. They’re not just big cities, they’re global sorting machines. People move there from all over the world because they want sth badly enough to accept all the downsides. The guy born in London can be lazy. But the 26yo Frenchman, Indian, American, Italian, Nigerian, Lebanese etc who voluntarily accepts the tiny flat, shit commute and absurd rent to be there has already self-selected pretty hard
And that selection compounds. I felt it instantly moving from my hometown in France to London. Growing up I was always “the ambitious one” in my friend group. Then you arrive in London and suddenly you feel extremely average. Everyone is trying to do sth. Completely changes your reference point for what a normal person can achieve
The other thing is just how many serious games are happening at once. If you know at 22 that you’re going to be a semiconductor engineer forever, maybe there are better specialised places. But most ambitious 24yos have absolutely no clue what game they’ll eventually want to play. In London/NYC/Paris you can accidentally become friends with people in PE, startups, politics, law, media, fashion, pharma, academia etc. Your finance friend dates someone in fashion, their roommate is building a startup, you meet someone in politics at dinner. Suddenly 5 completely different lives feel plausible
That’s insanely valuable when you’re young precisely because you don’t yet know which people / industries / opportunities will matter to your 34yo self
SF is the weird exception because it’s basically one giant concentrated bet on tech/AI. Much narrower than the other 3, but that game is so asymmetric rn that it deserves its spot. If you want to build at the frontier there’s probably no other place where your reference class changes that aggressively
And yh everyone keeps saying the internet made geography irrelevant. Maybe for information. Definitely not for trust/friendship. Anyone can learn from the same people online now, send the same cold DM, follow the same accounts. Much harder to replicate being the guy someone has had 20 dinners with, worked with, travelled with, introduced to friends and randomly bumped into for 5 years
When you’re 24 and nobody knows who tf you are, geography can do a lot of the work for you. You get invited because your colleague knows someone. You end up at a dinner because your friend needs a +1. Someone you met 3 years ago leaves and starts a company. Another moves to NYC. Another becomes a partner somewhere. Most of the ROI is completely impossible to predict upfront
Basically before you have your own gravity, borrow the city’s
At 45, if you’ve built the company / reputation / money / audience / network, you can go live in Tuscany, Mallorca, South of France or wherever and people will come to you. At 24 no one is coming lol. You should probably be where everything is happening
And tbh if you have the ability to move I wouldn’t spend 3 years waiting for the perfect job / apartment / timing. Get the shitty room, accept being poorer for a while, figure it out once you’re there. Your 20s are probably the cheapest years of your life to tolerate inconvenience anyway
You can optimise sqm, weather and comfort later
At 24 I’d rather maximise how many possible lives are available to me
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