If you can’t do London/NYC/SF/Paris because of visas, family, money or whatever, just move one level down
Your capital, regional hub, wherever concentrates ambitious people around you
The mistake is thinking city choice is binary: either NYC/London or who cares. There’s a whole ambition-density ladder in between. Can’t get a US/UK visa? Go to your country’s capital. Capital too expensive / impossible? Go to the regional business hub, best university city, fastest-growing industry cluster. The point is just to keep moving closer to where people are actively trying to do sth
And tbh the first jump might matter way more than the last one. Going from a small town where you’re always “the ambitious one” to a city where suddenly 50 people around you are building companies / joining great firms / moving abroad / doing weird interesting shit can completely change your reference class. Madrid -> London might be an upgrade, but hometown -> Madrid can change your entire conception of what a normal life looks like
A very simple rule of thumb: go where the ambitious people from your hometown go. Every country / region has one or two cities that act as sorting machines. Maybe it’s Warsaw, São Paulo, Amsterdam, Dubai, Singapore, Madrid, Boston, whatever. Doesn’t even need to be huge. A 500k-person university / tech / industry hub full of people who actively chose to be there can be much more valuable than a 5m-person city where everyone is just living the life they inherited
And don’t over-optimise which one either. Ambitious people love spending 2 years comparing tax rates / rents / weather / startup ecosystems when the obvious move is simply “leave the environment that’s clearly too small for you”. You can always move again. Hometown -> regional hub -> capital -> global city is a perfectly fine path. High agency isn’t magically teleporting to the optimal endpoint, it’s taking the best available step from where you currently are
A pretty good test is whether your reference class improves. If you’re still consistently the most ambitious / curious / internationally minded person in your immediate environment, you’re probably under-allocated geographically. Ideally you move somewhere and 6 months later think “fuck, I’m actually pretty average here”. That feeling is uncomfortable but insanely useful. Your standards reset without you consciously trying
So yh don’t obsess over making it to some perfect city. Just keep moving up the density gradient until you’re surrounded by enough people playing interesting games that your environment stops being the constraint
You don’t need to live in the best place in the world
You need to stop treating the place you were randomly born in as the default
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If you’re in your 20s (and ambitious) do everything to move to those 4 cities
Yes people will mog you for paying extortionate rents for such little comfort but who cares, you’re not everyone, you’re on a mission, you’re here for greatness
London/NYC/Paris/SF are basically the golden 4. They’re not just big cities, they’re global sorting machines. People move there from all over the world because they want sth badly enough to accept all the downsides. The guy born in London can be lazy. But the 26yo Frenchman, Indian, American, Italian, Nigerian, Lebanese etc who voluntarily accepts the tiny flat, shit commute and absurd rent to be there has already self-selected pretty hard
And that selection compounds. I felt it instantly moving from my hometown in France to London. Growing up I was always “the ambitious one” in my friend group. Then you arrive in London and suddenly you feel extremely average. Everyone is trying to do sth. Completely changes your reference point for what a normal person can achieve
The other thing is just how many serious games are happening at once. If you know at 22 that you’re going to be a semiconductor engineer forever, maybe there are better specialised places. But most ambitious 24yos have absolutely no clue what game they’ll eventually want to play. In London/NYC/Paris you can accidentally become friends with people in PE, startups, politics, law, media, fashion, pharma, academia etc. Your finance friend dates someone in fashion, their roommate is building a startup, you meet someone in politics at dinner. Suddenly 5 completely different lives feel plausible
That’s insanely valuable when you’re young precisely because you don’t yet know which people / industries / opportunities will matter to your 34yo self
SF is the weird exception because it’s basically one giant concentrated bet on tech/AI. Much narrower than the other 3, but that game is so asymmetric rn that it deserves its spot. If you want to build at the frontier there’s probably no other place where your reference class changes that aggressively
And yh everyone keeps saying the internet made geography irrelevant. Maybe for information. Definitely not for trust/friendship. Anyone can learn from the same people online now, send the same cold DM, follow the same accounts. Much harder to replicate being the guy someone has had 20 dinners with, worked with, travelled with, introduced to friends and randomly bumped into for 5 years
When you’re 24 and nobody knows who tf you are, geography can do a lot of the work for you. You get invited because your colleague knows someone. You end up at a dinner because your friend needs a +1. Someone you met 3 years ago leaves and starts a company. Another moves to NYC. Another becomes a partner somewhere. Most of the ROI is completely impossible to predict upfront
Basically before you have your own gravity, borrow the city’s
At 45, if you’ve built the company / reputation / money / audience / network, you can go live in Tuscany, Mallorca, South of France or wherever and people will come to you. At 24 no one is coming lol. You should probably be where everything is happening
And tbh if you have the ability to move I wouldn’t spend 3 years waiting for the perfect job / apartment / timing. Get the shitty room, accept being poorer for a while, figure it out once you’re there. Your 20s are probably the cheapest years of your life to tolerate inconvenience anyway
You can optimise sqm, weather and comfort later
At 24 I’d rather maximise how many possible lives are available to me
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