Could not having children really be a flex? Maybe I'm beginning to think like an African woman. I feel there comes a stage when you genuinely long for it. Forget all the social media façade. After all the “She's 40 and has no baby” displays, reality may dawn on her once she logs out. I'm not saying children are everything, but some people may be masking their struggles on social media. In Africa, we place great importance on a woman's ability to have children. It's our culture and the reality of our society. Even when a woman cannot have biological children, we try to comfort her, reminding her that she has nieces and nephews so she doesn't feel alone. Not having children may be seen as a flex in other societies, but for us Africans, I honestly have my doubts. 🤔

N.B This post is not for everybody. Please pass, if you can't relate. Something is fundamentally wrong with Nigeria.We are watching graduates become POS operators. People are fleeing the country while those who remain get priced out of basic living. Yet those in power continue as though everything is normal. Graduates earn ₦100k a month and spend ₦60k on transport,and those are the lucky ones. Many with Master’s degrees remain unemployed. Filling a Toyota Camry’s tank now costs around ₦70k, almost a month’s minimum wage for some. People are not just struggling; they are being disconnected from the lives they studied and worked for. Honest work is never shameful, but when a university graduate has no option but to abandon their career dreams, something is clearly broken. And where are our intellectuals? So many of them seem comfortable in bed with politicians, defending a system that ordinary Nigerians can barely survive, while using the same system’s benefits to secure better lives for their families abroad. We cannot keep pretending everything is fine. Nigeria needs accountability, functional institutions, and leadership that puts people before personal interests.Because when people are pushed to the edge for too long, the consequences can be unpredictable. And nobody should want to see that happen.