BEACH DAY! BEACH DAY? ADHD → Water: YES. → Snacks: YES. → Sunscreen: ...forgot. Can we go NOW? Autism → Ocean: YES. → Sand touching EVERYTHING: NO. → Same spot again: YES. We're getting ready for dinner at 6 sharp. High Sensitivity → Ocean breeze: HEAVEN. → Crowds: NO. → Restaurant research: already done. But does it have a quiet table outside? AUDHD → Ocean: YES. → Sand: NO. → Wet clothes: CRIME. I want absolutely no plans. Can you tell me exactly what we're doing?

As an autistic person, one of my experiences is that I can get sucked into an almost "compulsive" kind of spiral, deep diving and learning more about a specific topic. For me, it's often topic that help me understand myself or the world around me, and even sometimes to help solve my own physical ailments or mental struggles. A good way I can describe it is like my brain was pre-programmed with its own agenda of what it must solve for this world and it cannot rest or focus on anything else but that one topic until it feels understood or the loop feels closed. I couldn't focus on anything else if I tried because my brain starts to get jumbled and confused with competing thoughts all at once unless I engage them further. It's regulating in its own kind of way.

my audhd isnt a superpower and it isnt a disorder. it just that some days it helps, a lot of days it hinders. but its a part of who i am. i might dream of what life would be without it but at the end of the day it makes me ME.

BOOKING THE VACATION AUTISM: "You have six tabs open. You've been comparing for three weeks" ADHD: "You book something in ten minutes flat. You regret it later, sometimes" HIGHLY SENSITIVE: "You need the exact right balance of quiet, nature, low sensory input and still enough adventure." AUDHD: "Six tabs open for three weeks. Then you book spontaneously in ten minutes because you can't tolerate the decision anymore."

Things that just aren't itif you're an AuDHD Christian (autistic + adhd • Being asked to pray without warning • Forgetting my fidget toy at home • Taking sermon notes & catching maybe half • Wanting to read my Bible but being physically unable to move • Big spoons... ew. (Not a Christian thing but needed to be mentioned • Forgetting what I was praying about mid-prayer • Church concerts... TOO LOUD!! • All or nothing thinking. Oops, you're a legalist now.

Millennials in their Unmasking Era How many have you unlocked: 1. Realized you might be autistic 2. Stopped forcing eye contact 3. Started saying "no" as full answer 4. Quit pretending you like crowded places 5. Wear the same 4 outfits 6. Stopped answering every text immediately 7. Started protecting your alone time 8. Realized you actually hate small talk 9. Found neurodivergent friends 10. Stopped explaining your personality 11. Started leaving events early 12. Built routines around YOUR brain 13. Became weirdly serious about sleep 14. Realized half your "personality" was masking 15. Started figuring out who you actually are

People reveal more about themselves through the comments they leave than the posts they publish. A comment is often a glimpse into someone’s values, frustrations, or insecurities. Once you start paying attention, you can’t unsee it.

You could have been the most amazing partner to your dismissive avoidant ex. It still wouldn't have changed the ending. Because their behavior is not a reaction to you it's a reaction to closeness itself.