Mark Manson
@Markmanson
#1# New York Times Bestselling Author of five books, including "The Subtle Art of Not Giving F*ck". Co-Founder of @Purpose_AI. Host of Solved Podcast.
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Misery requires a lack of imagination. If you believe things can’t possibly get worse, then you clearly have not thought hard enough about it.
There is more opportunity than ever before. People just don’t realize it or appreciate it because they are also more distracted than ever before.
It took me years to realize that if you’re a people-pleaser, healthy boundaries will feel like conflict, and healthy conflict will feel like a world-ending disaster.
Balance feels unbalanced to an unbalanced person. To change, you have to consciously do what feels abnormal until it begins to feel normal.
It took me years to realize that if you’re a people-pleaser, healthy boundaries will feel like conflict, and healthy conflict will feel like a world-ending disaster.
Once you realize that people deal with their own failures by projecting them onto you, you will stop taking shit so personally.
The best revenge is to build a life that’s so fulfilling and awesome that you forget you ever wanted revenge in the first place.
Once you realize that people deal with their own failures by projecting them onto you, you will stop taking shit so personally.
“I was waiting for something extraordinary to happen, but as the years wasted on, nothing ever did unless I caused it.” – Charles Bukowski
The trick isn’t to stop comparing yourself. It’s impossible.
The trick is to compare yourself for better reasons and to better people.
Inspiration is a form of social comparison.
A role model is a form of social comparison.
Being coached involves a form of social comparison.
The problem isn’t social comparison. It’s how you’ve chosen to compare.
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You can’t stop comparing yourself to others. But you can choose to compare yourself to people who inspire you and motivate you, rather than ones who make you feel like shit.
The trick isn’t to stop comparing yourself. It’s impossible.
The trick is to compare yourself for better reasons and to better people.
If you’ve never pissed anyone off, you’ve probably never really said anything interesting, either.
If you’ve never pissed anyone off, you’ve probably never really said anything interesting, either.
You can’t stop comparing yourself to others. But you can choose to compare yourself to people who inspire you and motivate you, rather than ones who make you feel like shit.
You can’t build self-worth by trying to be like someone else. Counterfeits are always worth less than the original.
If your 8-year-old self met your adult self, would they be proud? Or just see a grown-up drowning in obligations and goals they don’t even fucking like?
The struggles never get easier. You just get better at bearing them.
Feeling better isn't necessarily being better. Most of our worst decisions felt amazing in the moment.
