I was streaming service this morning and this song comes up with these lines " except you build a house, the builder build in vain" It reminded me of a situation going on in my life, we have never really had God at the beginning of it, God has always been an after thought. Certain life situations will make you seek God in his trueness for yourself and others. Thank you Jesus for your everlasting mercies.

Twitter responses always comes with fire😭😭😭 Easy nauuuu, all of us are writing from our vantage point okay. In as much as we are all writing from our experiences, environments and the things that shapened us. We must always go back to the bible to hear the truth😌😌😌

No African woman living in Africa is happy not having a child in her marriage. People use social media for so many reasons. Some use it to fight their fears. I have heard some stories where some women go to prayer houses or spiritual homes just to get solutions yo their childlessness. Children are blessings, and a symbol of fruitfulness for a woman. The same way wealth is the symbol of fruitfulness for a man. You hardly see a man who will say he doesn’t want to have money! They are only using social media to fight their fears which is not total bad.

I understand that having children is a liability and a big burden when you don’t have the money to take good care of them. No doubt about it, but if you investigate properly you will realise that most of the ladies doing that trend are damaged people. I’m still single without a child, but I don’t see anything special there to celebrate. The honest truth is that most of us are scared to bring other people into this world to suffer because we know what we have been through, like you said. You can choose to stay single without a child, but you shouldn’t try to influence society with your personal decisions.

Why doesn’t Toluwanising’s wife want her husband buried in the house he built in Ibadan? She said she couldn’t live in a house where her husband would be buried. The late singer’s father has revealed that he and his daughter-in-law are having disagreements over where Toluwanising should be buried. According to his father, Toluwanising was born in 1992 and was named Sodiq before converting to Christianity. He insisted that his son was 34, not 44, as some people have claimed. He also revealed that Toluwanising lost his mother when he was just six months old. Recounting how he learnt of his son’s death, the father said he was attending a ceremony when he received a distress call asking him to return home. Shortly afterwards, he began seeing his son’s pictures circulating online with RIP captions. When he contacted his son’s wife to discuss the burial arrangements, she suggested burying him in a cemetery or church. His father disagreed, arguing that since his son had a house in Ibadan, he should be buried there. However, his wife maintained that she could not live in a house where her husband would be buried. The father said he then suggested that if his son could not be buried in his own house, his body should be taken to the village and buried beside his late mother.

“Something I witnessed in my friend's marriage years ago completely changed how I treated my husband. Nine years into my own marriage, I still consider that experience one of the biggest lessons of my married life.” During the early years of my marriage (I’ve been married for nine years now), my husband and I had our fair share of disagreements and quarrels. Back then, I had a friend I considered very close. Whenever my husband and I quarrelled, I would run to her house to cool off and pour out my frustrations. Her advice was always the same: “Don’t trust men o! They’re all the same. Never tolerate nonsense from any man!” Meanwhile, she painted her own marriage as paradise. I even envied her at some point. Until one afternoon. I was visiting a family close to her house and decided to surprise her. The gateman let me in, but as I approached her living room, I heard an angry voice and another pleading for forgiveness. The door was slightly ajar, and what I saw left me speechless. My friend was kneeling before her husband, apologising for not coming back home early from the wedding she went to. Ha! The same woman who had been teaching me how to go toe-to-toe with my husband? 🫢 I quietly left the way I came in to save her from further embarrassment. That experience changed something in me. Not because apologising to your husband is wrong, but because I realised that the marriage I had been envying wasn’t without its own struggles. I went home and reflected on my behaviour, my marriage, and the man I had prayed for. Yes, we had experienced difficulties, especially in our second year, but I had allowed outside opinions to magnify our problems. That evening, when my husband returned from work, I ran into his arms and kissed him passionately. He looked at me and asked if I was drunk. 😂 That man and his bad mouth! But this time, I was impervious to his teasing. Later, I knelt before him, even though he dislikes it, and apologised for my own mistakes, unnecessary comparisons, and attitude. That experience taught me something I’ve carried throughout my nine years of marriage: never compare the marriage you live in with the marriage someone else presents to you. Not everyone advising you has figured out their own life. And not every disagreement requires an outsider’s intervention. Of course, genuine mistreatment should never be ignored, and seeking wise counsel is important. But please, learn to distinguish between people helping you build your marriage and those merely projecting their frustrations onto yours. Sometimes, the people teaching you how not to tolerate your spouse are quietly practising the patience they’re discouraging you from having. Be discerning about whose advice you entertain.

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My friend’s husband has been supervising his church’s advertising projects in Port Harcourt for years. From billboards to flyers and other marketing materials, he worked with the company responsible for the designs. This was actually his line of work. The church provided a two-bedroom flat for him and his family, so he hadn’t paid rent in over four years. One day, he had an idea. What if he handled the church’s advertising projects through his own company and charged them less than the company they were using? He approached the church board and told them he had found a company that could do the job at a lower cost. The board was excited and agreed to give the company a tria He approached the church board and told them he had found a company that could do the job at a lower cost. The board was excited and agreed to give the company a trial. After the first project, they were impressed with the quality of the work and awarded his company a one-year contract. Within that year, my friend’s husband started building his own house and bought a car for his wife. Then things took a different turn. One of his closest friends in the church, someone he worked with in the same department, approached him and begged him to show him the way.

Many women use pregnancy and childbirth as a permanent excuse to stop caring about their body. They eat anyhow, stop exercising, and expect their husbands to stay attracted to them. You gained 30–50kg and want him to desire you. Life doesn’t work that way.

Could not having children really be a flex? Maybe I'm beginning to think like an African woman. I feel there comes a stage when you genuinely long for it. Forget all the social media façade. After all the “She's 40 and has no baby” displays, reality may dawn on her once she logs out. I'm not saying children are everything, but some people may be masking their struggles on social media. In Africa, we place great importance on a woman's ability to have children. It's our culture and the reality of our society. Even when a woman cannot have biological children, we try to comfort her, reminding her that she has nieces and nephews so she doesn't feel alone. Not having children may be seen as a flex in other societies, but for us Africans, I honestly have my doubts. 🤔